Chosen

I was born into one family and chosen by another. Sounds weird, doesn’t it? A lot of times adoptees are told they were or are chosen. Such as… Chosen by God to be adopted (aka God’s plan) Chosen by the adoptive parents to complete their family Chosen to live this remarkably blessed and fortunate life Essentially […]

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You could always adopt.

You could always adopt. Our culture throws this phrase around like it’s confetti on New Year’s Eve.  I want to be very clear on the message of my post: Adoption is not the remedy to infertility or any other reason why a couple cannot conceive (health, miscarriages, etc.) a child of their own. Yet, adoption […]

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A Better Friend

On my drive home from Northwest Arkansas, I talked on the phone with one of my closest friends. She and I met in Spanish class in college. We laughed together at the guy who was always late, complained about our professor’s unreasonable expectations and tried our very best to learn the language. We had for […]

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Breaking

Over the past several months, I have questioned over and over again the concept of “family” and what it means to me. What I found was concerning because it feels like my own unbreakable definition was actually shattered this entire time. In 2018, I chose to not attend my family’s Thanksgiving or Christmas celebrations. It was […]

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Birthmother Search

Birthmother Search — sounds strange, doesn’t it? The search for the person who carried you to term and gave you life. Everyone who is alive should know their own biological mother, yet many adoptees don’t know this person at all. That’s why the birthmother search exist. I am so excited for my Indian sisters – […]

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Grey

I recently read a blog post that included a fantastic quote addressing two extreme viewpoints of adoption. “Adoption is anything BUT a black and white issue. Anyone who tells you “Adoption is wonderful!” is just as misguided as someone who tells you “Adoption is horrible!” In both cases, they have filtered out all but a […]

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Response

I started blogging about my adoption story over a year ago. I’ve had many criticisms on my writings, from total strangers to people I know personally.  And while the critics do exist (and will always exist), there are so many more people who are cheering me (and other adoptees) on to share and share more. […]

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